We’ve all heard the saying, “Teamwork makes the dream work”.

In this blog, “Teamwork makes the ‘home’ work” in your marriage!

Having a team mentality with your spouse will help your home function well, and allow you to create a healthy living environment. Essentially, this means not one person is stuck with all of the house chores, but you both divide them up as evenly as possible. This can help you avoid those frequent little arguments about who’s turn it is to take out the trash, do the dishes, etc.

As a wife, I know we can have this preconceived notion that we are supposed to do all of the cooking and all of the cleaning. It can be easy for us to feel like the weight of our household falls solely on our shoulders.

But most times this isn’t true! Our husbands want to help, we just simply need to ask them. We can’t assume that they don’t care or don’t want to help just because they are unaware of what needs to be done.

There are certain chores that I enjoy doing that my husband doesn’t and vice versa. For example, my husband hates vacuuming. When he’s cooking dinner I try to vacuum and tidy up the living room area. This works out for me, because I hate cooking but find vacuuming really fun!

My husband and I communicated with each other before we got married about our expectations with house chores, and we tried to divide them up based upon our likes and dislikes.

Another way my husband and I use teamwork in our home is when we see a need, we do it! Neither one of us hesitates to take the garbage out or do the dishes in the sink if we see that it needs to be done. We think about our spouse when we do this and put them before ourselves. We choose to serve them. I sacrifice some getting ready time in the morning to do the dirty dishes in the sink, so that my husband doesn’t have to do them when he gets home from work before me.

Especially being newlyweds and never living together, it was so refreshing for my husband and I to create a healthy, functioning home. Feeling like we are on the same team in our home has allowed us to dream about our future and continue to grow our marriage. Those little fights about household chores do not distract us anymore from our mission as husband and wife.

I want to encourage you to have teamwork with your spouse in your own  home! Have a conversation with each other and make a list of all of the chores that need to get done around the house. Talk about which ones each of you likes to do and make a plan for when things will get done. Make sure to divide them up based upon what you might already like to do.

And remember….

~ “Teamwork makes the ‘home’ work.” ~

All the best,

Jess Conley

Photo by: Brittany Pannebaker Photography